The thought of giving up alcohol totally freaked me out. When I first began to question my drinking, I was reminded of my beginning days of the divorce. The day my Ex-husband announced he wanted a trial separation, I felt like my entire world fell apart.
I cried myself to sleep in the fetal position inside the walk-in closet in my bedroom for six long months.
I’d get up in the morning, have the mad rush of getting my 8-year-old daughter and 12-year-old son ready for school. You know the one I mean…. wake them up, make breakfast, fix lunch and have them dressed and ready to drive off in the car by 7:30 AM. Oh yes, and fit in getting yourself ready in there some place.
Do my job on autopilot. Come home for the dinner rush hour after picking them up from after school care. Once my kids were in bed, I’d get my bottle of wine, head off to my bedroom to eventually drink too much wine and crawl my way into my bedroom walk-in closet to cry myself to sleep.
You see, I’d spent 18 years hearing how dumb and stupid I was. How I’d never make it in the world without him. A few times, I found the courage to say…… this is over, I’m done. Each time he’d let me know in no uncertain terms he’d take my two kids, and I’d never see them again. Immediately my courage flew out the window. I stayed and lost more and more of my confidence every day.
My personal self-worth was so low; I’d do everything I could to woo him back into my life even though this same person had told me for years how dumb I was. On the weekends he came over to see the kids, I’d make dinners, drink too much, find my way into bed with him and beg him to come home.
What I now know is all the negative things I told myself each night, along with my drinking, kept me stuck in a turbulent life. Drinking too much and ending up in the walk-in closet, all happen before I knew about the Law of Attraction and the power of my words.
Just like I’ll never forget the day my Ex walked out. I’ll also never forget the day I found my voice. On a weekend in July, he arrived at the house for his usual attempt to get me in the sack. The second I saw his car in the driveway, I ran to the front door of the house so he would be unable to come in on his own. Yes, he still had a key. I stopped him dead in his tracks. Told him he could never ever touch me again or come into this house without my permission. Plus, the two children were leaving with him for the weekend.
I still drink way too much that night….but I slept in my bed for the first time in 6 months.
Seven Things You Need to Know So You Can Rewire Your Thoughts
- You are stronger than you think.
- Yes, this will be one of the hardest things you have ever had to do in your life.
- Each time you find yourself thinking about how hard this is, stop your thoughts in the tracks. Then ask yourself…..So, What Do I Want
- You can do this.
- Changing the story in your head and the one you tell the world will make this process so much easier.
- The more you talk about how hard this is, the more attention, energy and focus you give the negative parts of this journey, the more turbulent this life transformation journey will be for you.
- You’ll end up in a vicious cycle of observing all the bad things in your life
- Use the So, What Do I Want question to help you begin to change your story. Start talking about what you do want instead of what you don’t want or like.
- You will go through a growth process.
- Changing your relationship with alcohol feels a lot like the loss of a friend. As a result, some days will be more challenging than others.
- As you go through your transformation, remember tips number 1 and 2.
- Find small little things you can do each day to make something better around you.
- Your drinking may have become messy and chaotic. You might feel like everything is out of your control. Finding small things you can do something about will help you gain back some control in your life.
- Discover yourself again.
- Do you remember the movie “When Harry Met Sally”? There is a scene where Carrie Fisher’s character explains to Sally how married people become stagnant and set in their ways and single people are more up to trying new things. I don’t know about you; but I know I became stagnant. I lost my own personal power. Now is the time to create a new chapter in your life.
- Unsure how to start? Click here to find a good starting point.
- The Best Thing You Can Do For Your Children is number five.
- Your friends are stuck between a rock and a hard place.
- Thinking about our relationship with alcohol is up there with death and taxes. It’s one of the ones nobody wants to really think about let alone talk about. Many people fear being placed in the “alcoholic category”. Some of your friends won’t be able to handle what’s happening with you because of their own issues.
- Remember their distance from you is more about them than you.
Sending much love and support,
Teaching you how to use the Law of Attraction to change your relationship with alcohol one thought at a time and create a life you love living
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